tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5961604105772410147.post7535071873803353853..comments2023-06-06T08:47:57.482-07:00Comments on a mad world: Labels and denialMadeleinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04193070164584925505noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5961604105772410147.post-62049623473850946362012-03-07T08:49:00.270-08:002012-03-07T08:49:00.270-08:00You're so right. Nothing makes me sadder (and ...You're so right. Nothing makes me sadder (and madder) than reading spats between working mums and SAHMs, each justifying their way, and in the process, completely writing off the others' way. I lost all respect fro Anderson Cooper recently when he had a bunch of mothers on his talk show one day, all effectively slamming one another ("lazy" vs "uncaring") and he basically enabled that whole nasty discussion. It was ugly, and his charm no longer works for me.<br /><br />I'm glad I haven't personally been on the receiving end of anyone's harsh judgement (at least, not to my face!) but until we accept that there isn't one 'right' or 'better' way of doing this, we have a long way to go.Madeleinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04193070164584925505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5961604105772410147.post-82403943259225413772012-03-06T17:18:45.770-08:002012-03-06T17:18:45.770-08:00I think in a way, we're in a very similar plac...I think in a way, we're in a very similar place. I feel like neither one nor the other. Or perhaps in my case, it is a feeling that I don't belong rightfully in either camp because I'm doing an equally shithouse job at both. Again, a common feeling I'm told by those trying to straddle the fence.<br /><br />I know what you mean - I didn't call myself a SAHM either and it wasn't from lack of solidarity with my fellow travellers.<br /><br />The thing is, for women with children, this is how life is. Some of us have to work full time. Some of us don't. Some of us can only manage a few days a week. We're all trying to balance this with caring for our kids and when we're not there, making sure that the care they're getting from others meets their needs.<br /><br />If we're lucky, the support is there from at least one direction and we don't feel as if we are carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. <br /><br />I hate it when I see public spats between women over these issues - again, we are fighting each other instead of fighting what is wrong. And what is wrong is the fact that any of us see any need to justify or explain ourselves for our choices. We don't see men doing this. They just do what they do. <br /><br />Maybe in order to be more kind to ourselves, we first have to be more kind to each other.<br /><br />Sorry for the long rambling comment - again. ;)melbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14032793912135092967noreply@blogger.com